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朋友們吉祥如意！今天是吉祥觀音日，一起聽我清唱大悲咒~一同共修🙏
大悲咒是彰顯觀世音菩薩大慈悲心、無上菩提心、以及濟世渡人、開悟無上正等正覺的重要口訣！
句句大願～願願著力～
當時觀世音菩薩始住初地，
一聞此咒，立超第八地！
乃發誓言：「若我當來，堪能利益安樂一切眾生者，令我即時身生千手千眼具足」這也是「千手千眼無礙大悲心陀羅尼」名稱的由來。
所以凡能真誠誦唸，
則必會產生感應，
得到諸多法益！

大悲咒同時也具有「息災」之功效，
是十分殊勝的咒言，
能夠安定人心、安定社會、安定環境，
累積無限廣大的祝福願力～
讓我們透過這短短的時間一同共修，
為世界祈福🙏功德無量！
歡迎大家跟著我一起念，
一起迴向給世間有情眾生🙏
祈願疫情還未控制的國家早日安寧，
祈願疫情得已控制的地區早日平息，
祈願天災人禍能夠降低傷害，
祈願人人皆能活在當下、安住現況，
一切圓滿所願，健康自在！
～雨揚合十

🙏《大悲咒》
南無 喝囉怛那 哆囉夜耶‧南無 阿唎耶‧
婆盧羯帝 爍缽囉耶‧
菩提薩埵婆耶‧
摩訶薩埵婆耶‧摩訶迦盧尼迦耶‧唵‧薩皤囉罰曳‧數怛那怛寫‧
南無悉吉栗埵 伊蒙阿唎耶‧
婆盧吉帝 室佛囉楞馱婆‧南無 那囉謹墀‧醯唎摩訶皤哆沙咩‧薩婆阿他 豆輸朋‧阿逝孕‧

薩婆薩哆 那摩婆薩哆 那摩婆伽‧摩罰特豆‧怛姪他‧唵 阿婆盧醯‧盧迦帝‧迦羅帝‧
夷醯唎‧摩訶菩提薩埵‧
薩婆薩婆‧摩囉摩囉‧摩醯摩醯 唎馱孕‧俱盧俱盧 羯蒙‧度盧度盧 罰闍耶帝‧
摩訶罰闍耶帝‧陀囉陀囉‧地唎尼‧室佛囉耶‧遮囉遮囉‧麼麼 罰摩囉‧穆帝隸‧

伊醯伊醯‧室那室那‧阿囉參 佛囉舍利‧罰沙罰參‧佛囉舍耶‧
呼盧呼盧摩囉‧呼盧呼盧醯利‧娑囉娑囉‧悉唎悉唎‧蘇嚧蘇嚧‧菩提夜 菩提夜‧
菩馱夜 菩馱夜‧彌帝唎夜‧那囉謹墀‧地利瑟尼那‧
波夜摩那‧娑婆訶‧悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧
摩訶悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧悉陀喻藝‧室皤囉夜‧娑婆訶‧
那囉謹墀‧娑婆訶‧摩囉那囉‧娑婆訶‧
悉囉僧 阿穆佉耶‧娑婆訶‧娑婆摩訶 阿悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧者吉囉 阿悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧
波陀摩 羯悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧那囉謹墀 皤伽囉耶‧娑婆訶‧摩婆利 勝羯囉夜‧娑婆訶‧

南無喝囉怛那 哆囉夜耶‧南無阿利耶‧
婆羅吉帝‧爍皤囉夜‧娑婆訶‧
唵 悉殿都‧漫多囉‧跋陀耶‧娑婆訶‧

🙏頂禮大慈大悲觀世音菩薩
🙏頂禮大慈大悲觀世音菩薩
🙏頂禮大慈大悲觀世音菩薩

🙏獻妙樂回向文：
我以海潮音，讚佛功德海，
願妙讚歌雲，飄臨彼等前。
別此亦獻供，悅耳美歌樂，
願息有情苦，樂雲常住留。
願我所修諸功德，
回向眾生得解脫，
永離四苦三毒害，
智慧如海證圓覺。
南無阿彌陀佛！

【德多少，就得多少】
YOUR VIRTUES DETERMINE HOW MUCH YOU GET

最近家附近有建築工地，噪音多了。

客人聽我的聲音不會有問題，因為我的耳機有麥克風，但如果他們不戴有麥克風的耳機，我聽他們的聲音會比較辛苦。

幾天前，為一位年輕的保險經紀通過Zoom批八字。

他進入Zoom會議室後，呆看著我。

我微笑看著他，故意不出聲，觀察著他。

幾秒後，他才粗魯的說：「哈囉？!」

奇怪了，貴為一個保險經紀，見人應該無數，打招呼的方式，怎能這麼粗俗？我阿姨阿伯級的客人，雖不常用Zoom，都比他懂禮貌。

我馬上回：「X先生，您好。您進來會議室，怎麼打招呼這麼粗俗？」

「我一向來都是這樣先哈囉，有聲音我才正式打招呼。」

「我倒是從來不會這樣。」

其實，這是個人修養的問題。

「你沒有讀我發給你的貼文嗎？為何你視訊沒有戴耳機？」

「我一向來Zoom都是這樣，沒有戴耳機。我以為你只是建議而已，不一定要戴。」

「我在貼文裡寫關於戴耳機的理由，你覺得不成立嗎？」

他想了幾秒，回：「是成立的。」

「我們都是提供服務的人。客人找我們，需要三大元素。第一個，就是同理心。你沒有同理心，難怪你說你的客人寧願聽別人說，也不信你說。」

「如果你要我戴，我現在就戴。」

他講完後，依然坐在那裡看著我，一動也不動。

後來，我說了幾句，他肯戴上耳機後，藍牙耳機也並沒操作好。

等了我一個月，這麼簡單的事情都不願事先做好。

看著他理直氣壯的模樣，頓時覺得他很可憐。

貴人坐在他面前，他說的一大堆話，都是以「自我」為出發點，完全不懂得「以和為貴」的道理。這不就是親手把貴人轟出門嗎？

「你這樣講話，就算講贏了，你真的贏了嗎？」

換成我是他的客人，我絕不會向他買保險，因為很明顯這不是一位真心為別人著想的保險經紀人。

那天，雖為他看八字，該說的我都有說，但我依然保留許多。

因為他缺德。

許多人把「德」看得很輕，覺得沒做壞事就是好人。事實上，不按照別人合理的要求做事，蓄意破壞規則，只顧自己，也是沒有德行可言。

有些人會吐槽，哎呀你學佛的人，要慈悲，何必跟他計較？不要著相！

我不是在意氣用事。

沒有智慧的慈悲，會害死人的。

祖師有訓 - 看命本來就是依客人的福德多寡，而賜福。品行不端的人，承受不起更多的福報，反而會遭反噬。再說了，對貴人都不好的人，對沒有利用價值的人就會更善良嗎？

不是捐錢的，就一定是好人，什麼事情都是要用心才算。

每個人都想要與眾不同，可是如果你的所作所為和一般人一樣，沒有比他們做得更好，那你的命格只配拿得起一般的命運。

不要迷信，以為什麼都是人家為難你，就跑去求神拜佛要打小人。我們命運裡的每一個障礙，每一粒石頭，都是自己放進去的。

你不改，障礙物就不會移。

在這裡聲明：沒有麥克風耳機的Zoom客人，我一概會取消諮詢，進行退款，沒得商量，沒得瞎掰。

能突然放假，真是太過癮了！

——————————————————

Recently, a construction site sprouted up beside my place, creating a lot of noise every day.

Zoom clients wouldn’t have a problem hearing me, but if they do not have a earpiece with a mic, I would have a problem hearing them.

Few days ago, I did a Bazi analysis for a young Insurance Agent via Zoom.

After he entered my Zoom meeting room, he looked at me blankly.

I smiled at him, deliberately staying quiet, and observed him.

Few seconds later, he said bluntly, “Hello?!”

How strange that an insurance agent, who probably have met tons of people, would greet in such an abrupt manner. My middle-aged clients, who rarely use Zoom, have better etiquette than him.

I replied instantly, “Hi, Mr X. Why is your greeting so crude, upon entering this meeting room?”

“I always say hello like this and wait to hear a reply, before I greet officially.”

“I never do that.”

Actually, this demonstrates the refinement of a person.

“Did you not read the post I sent you? Why are you not wearing a earpiece?”

“All along, I do Zooms in this manner without a earpiece. I thought it’s just a suggestion from you and it was not mandatory.”

“I wrote about the reason for clients to wear a earpiece. Do you find it invalid?”

He pondered for a few seconds and replied, “It’s valid.”

“We are both service providers. Clients look for us based on three main qualities. The first being the quality of empathy. You lack empathy and it’s no wonder you say your clients rather listen to others and not trust you as much.”

“If you want me to wear, then I will wear it now”

And he sat there looking at me, not moving an inch.

When he finally put on his ear pods, they did not operate well either.

It’s peculiar how despite a month of waiting for me, he was slow to get this simple thing done right.

Seeing how “self-assured” he was, for a brief moment, I find his behaviour pitiful.

His benefactor was sitting right in front of him, yet his words remained self-serving, totally oblivious to what harmony is about. Wasn’t this sending your benefactor straight out of the door?

“Even if you gain an upper hand talking like this, have you really won?

I would never buy insurance from such an agent, as obviously he was not the considerate kind.

I still read his Bazi that day, said what I should but there were also a lot I did not reveal.

Because he is lacking in virtues.

Many people think lightly of virtues. They assumed that if they do no evil deed, they are virtuous humans. Fact is, if you do not follow the reasonable requirements of other people, deliberately breaking the rules for your own gain, you have no virtue to speak of.

Some naysayers will tell me, but hey you are a practicing Buddhist, so you should exercise your compassion and not be bothered with his behaviour! Don’t get attached to external form!

This isn’t about me.

Compassion without wisdom brings more harm than good.

Since ancient times, it is a rule of thumb that we practitioners allocate good fortune to clients, based on their conduct and luck.

A person with undesirable conduct is unable to bear greater fortune, or there will be adverse consequences. Moreover, if a person is unkind to his benefactor, it is very unlikely that he will be kinder to another person with no value to him.

You can’t define a person as a good man, just because he is willing to donate money. We got to look at how he uses his heart.

Everybody wants to be special and different from others. But if what you are doing is the same as other people, nowhere better than them, then you can only carry a mediocre Destiny.

Don’t be superstitious to think that everybody is out to get you, and you go running to the temples or Feng Shui masters to chase away the villains.

Every obstacle in our destiny, every little stone that trips us, is placed in our lives by no other person but ourselves.

If you do not change, the obstacle isn’t going to budge either.

And here’s an official note: For any Zoom client that does not wear a earpiece with a microphone, I will cancel the consultation and give you a refund.

Having off days out of the blue are so much more fun!

朋友們吉祥如意！為了今天如此殊勝的觀音成道日，我特別清唱了一段大悲咒跟大家分享並一同共修🙏
為什麼選擇大悲咒呢？
因為大悲咒是彰顯觀世音菩薩大慈悲心、無上菩提心、以及濟世渡人、開悟無上正等正覺的重要口訣！
句句大願～願願著力～
當時觀世音菩薩始住初地，
一聞此咒，立超第八地！
乃發誓言：「若我當來，堪能利益安樂一切眾生者，令我即時身生千手千眼具足」這也是「千手千眼無礙大悲心陀羅尼」名稱的由來。
所以凡能真誠誦唸，
則必會產生感應，
得到諸多法益！

大悲咒同時也具有「息災」之功效，
是十分殊勝的咒言，
能夠安定人心、安定社會、安定環境，
累積無限廣大的祝福願力～
讓我們透過這短短的時間一同共修，
為世界祈福🙏功德無量！
歡迎大家跟著我一起念，
一起迴向給世間有情眾生🙏
祈願疫情還未控制的國家早日安寧，
祈願疫情得已控制的地區早日平息，
祈願天災人禍能夠降低傷害，
祈願人人皆能活在當下、安住現況，
一切圓滿所願，健康自在！
～雨揚合十

🙏《大悲咒》
南無 喝囉怛那 哆囉夜耶‧南無 阿唎耶‧
婆盧羯帝 爍缽囉耶‧
菩提薩埵婆耶‧
摩訶薩埵婆耶‧摩訶迦盧尼迦耶‧唵‧薩皤囉罰曳‧數怛那怛寫‧
南無悉吉栗埵 伊蒙阿唎耶‧
婆盧吉帝 室佛囉楞馱婆‧南無 那囉謹墀‧醯唎摩訶皤哆沙咩‧薩婆阿他 豆輸朋‧阿逝孕‧

薩婆薩哆 那摩婆薩哆 那摩婆伽‧摩罰特豆‧怛姪他‧唵 阿婆盧醯‧盧迦帝‧迦羅帝‧
夷醯唎‧摩訶菩提薩埵‧
薩婆薩婆‧摩囉摩囉‧摩醯摩醯 唎馱孕‧俱盧俱盧 羯蒙‧度盧度盧 罰闍耶帝‧
摩訶罰闍耶帝‧陀囉陀囉‧地唎尼‧室佛囉耶‧遮囉遮囉‧麼麼 罰摩囉‧穆帝隸‧

伊醯伊醯‧室那室那‧阿囉參 佛囉舍利‧罰沙罰參‧佛囉舍耶‧
呼盧呼盧摩囉‧呼盧呼盧醯利‧娑囉娑囉‧悉唎悉唎‧蘇嚧蘇嚧‧菩提夜 菩提夜‧
菩馱夜 菩馱夜‧彌帝唎夜‧那囉謹墀‧地利瑟尼那‧
波夜摩那‧娑婆訶‧悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧
摩訶悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧悉陀喻藝‧室皤囉夜‧娑婆訶‧
那囉謹墀‧娑婆訶‧摩囉那囉‧娑婆訶‧
悉囉僧 阿穆佉耶‧娑婆訶‧娑婆摩訶 阿悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧者吉囉 阿悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧
波陀摩 羯悉陀夜‧娑婆訶‧那囉謹墀 皤伽囉耶‧娑婆訶‧摩婆利 勝羯囉夜‧娑婆訶‧

南無喝囉怛那 哆囉夜耶‧南無阿利耶‧
婆羅吉帝‧爍皤囉夜‧娑婆訶‧
唵 悉殿都‧漫多囉‧跋陀耶‧娑婆訶‧

🙏獻妙樂回向文：
我以海潮音，讚佛功德海，
願妙讚歌雲，飄臨彼等前。
別此亦獻供，悅耳美歌樂，
願息有情苦，樂雲常住留。
願我所修諸功德，
回向眾生得解脫，
永離四苦三毒害，
智慧如海證圓覺。
南無阿彌陀佛！

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【真佛密法的實證】(English version below)

1999年農曆八月十五早上七點，我皈依了聖尊蓮生活佛。今天是我的二十歲生日。

回顧這些自己在，時光的洪流中，隨着業力掙扎蛻變的照片，由衷的感恩，吾之根本傳承上師，聖尊蓮生活佛，大慈大悲的救渡，讓吾在這一世，還能聽聞甚深的佛法，且還能修習完整的密法，眞的是佛恩浩大啊!

祂也讓吾明白，佛經中述及的不可思議。從祂的傳法中，祂教會吾什麼是慈悲，什麼是勇猛精進，什麼是長養菩提心，如何從俗走向聖，如何截斷欲望的洪流，次第淺進的明心見性、自主生死、還本帰元。

爲了报达佛恩於萬一，吾願意以過去不堪入目的醜態，來證明眞佛密法，的实在修持，眞的能够讓吾等眾生，由濁到淨，永斷生死苦海，徹底的解脫，還本帰元。

.....................

On the 15th day of the 8th Lunar Month, at 7am, I took refuge in His Holiness Living Buddha. Today is my 20th birthday.

As I reminisced over these photographs, and witnessed my karmic metamorphosis over the passage of time, I am deeply grateful to my Root Guru, His Holiness Living Buddha Lian Sheng, for His greatly compassionate salvation, such that in this lifetime of mine, I can hear the profound Dharma and study and practice a complete tantric Dharma practice. This is truly great grace from the Buddha!

He also enlightens me on the inconceivables in the Buddhist sutras. In His Dharma propagation, He had taught me what is compassion, courage and diligence and what it means to cultivate Bodhicitta for long. He also showed me how to walk the Path of Transformation from a mortal to a sage. He imparts Dharma wisdom on how to end the continuous deluge of mortal desires, and advance on the path to Enlightenment in sequence, gain autonomy in birth and death and returning to Source.

In order to repay the Buddha’s Grace, I am most willing to disclose my ugly self of the past and be the living proof that the True Buddha Tantric Practices thoroughly transformed me, from turbidity to purity, giving me salvation from the suffering Sea of Life and Death. A thorough liberation, a return to Source.

「餵唔到人奶，我真係好無用」、「人人都得，點解係得我兼顧唔到家庭同事業？」、「做到隻積咁都撐唔起頭家，點算好爸爸」、「我真係唔識教」……

聽到朋友咁樣批判自己，我地都會想盡辦法去安慰佢地，甚至好能夠同理對方，因為我地真心明白，餵人奶也好、兼顧家庭同事業也好、甚或喺香港要獨力養起頭家，都唔容易，能夠咬緊牙關撐下去嘅父母，點會一無是處？

之但係，當呢啲聲音唔係黎自朋友，而係我地自己嘅心聲嘅時候，你有無發覺，我地好少會安慰自己，反而會加多兩錢肉緊，批判自己。好似只有自我批評同自我懲罰先可以幫我們做得更好。

但事實係咪咁呢？

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