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Tania, a coaching client, told me about the night she cries in her bedroom with a job offer in her hands. She knew this job was not for her but it made her parents proud.

Tania was unhappy with her job but she also didn't know what she wanted.

What really happened was that she had spent so many years following others' expectations that she lost access to what I call the “inner compass” - the place within each of us that holds the answer to the questions:

“What do I want?” “What is my purpose?”

Part of the work to get Tania back in touch with her inner compass was to let go of the fear of disappointing others.

“I give myself permission to disappoint others.” became Tania’s affirmation.

Not to disappoint people out of meanness and inconsideration. But out of kindness to herself.

Slowly Tania experienced the lightness and freedom she’d never felt before. That opened up the space for her to explore the work that she felt called to do.

It’s such a cliche but we really can’t make everyone happy.
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✨ Excerpt from my new blog "Let Me Disappoint You".
👉 Read full article here >> https://milenanguyen.com/blog/2020/2/27/let-me-disappoint-you

【給自己一個機會紅起來】❤️
Give Yourself A Chance To Shine

如果說宇宙的力量可以分為五種，那那五種力量就是金、木、水、火和土了。

世界萬物萬事都能以這五行去分類，而每個人的八字就是這五行的獨特混合體。這混合體遇到外在人事物的五行力量時，就會產生不同的吉凶禍福局面。

我個人經驗是，就算有著同樣八字的雙胞胎，也不會有一模一樣的命運，因為面相有細微之分，姓名的字義、音韻、筆畫和含義也會有不同的靈動力，影響著雙胞胎的命運。

看命，關鍵就在於找出自己需要的五行是什麼。這很考經驗，不是把八字裡的五行加減乘除一番就能斷出。如果這第一步搞錯，全盤的分析就會錯得一塌糊塗了。

在捉準需要的五行後，再來就是引導客人如何在衣食住行方面去補運，進而趨吉避凶。坦白說，如果客人不照著做，其實來看命也沒什麼意思。

知道未來好或不好，然後就聽天由命嗎？那豈不是只是花錢，來聽我說出你人生電視連續劇的劇透而已嗎？

我見了那麼多客人後，自己有個感想。如果人生一切都很安好，但自己就是開心不起來，這樣活著如行屍走肉，太痛苦了。

在批八字時，我都會告訴客人該用什麼顏色來旺自己。不要小看色彩學，每個顏色都有它們的五行。我也多次以色彩學，幫助一些客人應徵成功，在疫情期間依然能奏效。

但在七彩繽紛的顏色當中，只要我一提到紅色，客人們的反應普遍都很大。

什麼？那麼亮啊？
我的老婆說看不慣我穿這色！
那不是天天過年嗎？
我以前的命理師也是這麼說，
但我就是沒有做。

我的答案：你穿了幾十年這樣的顏色，也不見得你好。想命好一點，何不試一下我說的顏色？

紅能分出深淺、濃淡、明暗和不同的色度。沒有人叫你每天穿得像紅包似的。你每天穿黑，也不見得你像包青天那般的黑白分明。

附上A小姐和B先生「走紅」後的個別見證。

寫這電郵見證的B先生，在九月與我做了個後續諮詢。我遠遠看到他時，就已在想，怎麼身上絲毫沒有改變，而且還一副苦瓜臉？

他說，當初我三月見他時，他剛買了一堆衣服。顏色雖不利他，但他不捨得丟，而且老婆也不支持他穿紅色。公司裡的人也都是穿暗色的。

我說，那些新衣你也穿了幾個月了，可以拿去捐給有需要的人，佈施也不算浪費。老婆固然好意，但命是你自己的，你痛苦只有你自己知。

對待自己的命運，我們應該持有科學家的研究精神。你不去做這個實驗，你永遠不會知道我說的到底對不對。做這個實驗不難，不妨叫你的太太給你一個機會去改變。

換衣服顏色而已，又不是叫你換老婆。😂

與其內心糾結直到頭腦打結，我永遠選擇踏出第一步試一下。Never try, never know.

我一生人經歷了那麼多起起落落，老實告訴大家，命好起來時，心豁然開朗時，那種感覺真的很爽。不信，你試一下。

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If the energies in the Universe can be categorised, they would come in the 5 forms of Metal, Wood, Water, Fire and Earth.

All manifestations, be it things or events, in this world falls under these 5 elements, and each and every one of our Bazi is the combination of these 5 elements. The interaction between these elements in our Bazi and those in our circumstances will result in myriad of happenings, good fortunes or otherwise.

My personal experience tells me that even though 2 person may have exactly the same Bazi, but their destinies may turn out different. Reasons being the discrepancy in their facial features, the meanings, tonality, character strokes and essence of their names.

The crux of reading your own destiny lies in uncovering which of the 5 elements is or are mandatory for you. This calls for plenty of practical experience. It is not simply doing simple math of plus, minus, multiply and divide. If this first step is wrong, the whole deck of cards will surely collapse.

After deciphering the correct element, the next step is do guide the client on how to use it to boost their energies in all aspects, from external clothing and living environment to what they eat so as to attract good tidings and ward off misfortunes. Frankly, if the client is uncooperative, the whole of point of Bazi analysis would have been lost.

To know how your future will unfold but behave like a sitting duck? That’s just like buying a movie ticket to watch a preview of your life drama, isnt it?

I had this thought after seeing so many clients: if one’s life is seemingly smooth sailing but one remains unhappy, such zombie-like existence is very painful.

During a typical Bazi analysis session, I would always recommend the client certain colours favourable to him or her to boost the luck. Never underestimate the power of colours. Each colour has its own elemental nature. I have used this successfully several times to help clients succeed at their job interviews, even during this pandemic period.

However as soon as I mentioned the red colour, reactions from my clients tended to be bigger than usual.

Why?
Such a bright colour?
My wife said she’s not used to me in this colour!
That’s like Chinese New Year everyday!
The previous master I consulted said so too, but I did not heed the advice.

My answer: if you have been wearing your same old colours for the past many years and getting not much favours from Lady Luck, why not give my suggestion a try?

There are many tones and shades of Red. Nobody is asking you to dress like a big red ang bao (red packet) everyday. Dressing black everyday doesn’t make you Justice Bao either.

Attached are testimonies from Miss A and Mr B after they went red.

Mr B. came to me in September for a follow-up consultation. When I saw him from afar, I was thinking why there wasn’t any sign of change in him. He even sported a sour face.

He told me that after seeing me in March, he had just bought some clothes in colours that were unfavourable to him. He couldn’t bear to throw them away, and his wife didn’t really support him wearing red either. He said his colleagues were all wearing darker colours.

I told him that those clothes he bought had already served him for several months and he could donate them away. That would not constitute wastage. His wife may have good intentions but your destiny is your own business and only you know your sufferings.

We ought to treat our destiny with the spirit of a scientist. If you don’t experiment, you will never know if my methods work. This experiment is a simple one, ask your wife to support you this once.

It’s only changing the colour of your clothes, not asking to change your wife. 😂

Rather than getting oneself in knots, I will always choose to take the first step. Never try, never know.

My life’s journey has been that of ups and downs. Frankly speaking, when the winds begin blowing in your sails, and lift your spirit, those emotions are exhilarating. Don’t believe me? Try it out yourself.

【突破命中注定】(English writing below)
Be Smarter Than Your Destiny

每個人都是擁有自己的專屬磁場。

這磁場由我們出生的八字，住的地方風水，個人思想，出生背景和後天的教育、經歷、宗教、文化及社交圈等所組成。

批八字就是去解析這金木水火土的複雜結合體，再運用這份了解去最大化我們的「旺」，及最小化我們的「衰」。

我批八字都是會親自面見客人，因為看到「本尊」，再配合對方的面相（看照騙不夠準）和氣場，分析可以更深入。

一個人的磁場遇到怎樣的人事物，碰到怎樣的金木水火土，便會產生不一樣的化學作用，演化出各式各樣的好運、歹運、旺氣和霉氣。

我們懂我們的八字，就是要掌控一定的主導力，先知先覺，而不是被命運牽著鼻子走。後知後覺，就輸了。

在使自己的人生變得更好的過程裡，忌諱之一的就是生病。

生病會破財，會做不好重要的工作，會影響腦筋的靈活。

有人說：小病是福，大病才是禍。

講是這樣講，一個人如果一直生小病，代表他的身體不堅固。不堅固的身體，是無法攔官攔財攔煞，更會無法照顧好自己的家庭。而如果頻頻生小病的是一個小孩子，必定會帶給父母很多金錢和精神上的煩惱。

批八字時，當這女士告訴我會全家去東京度假時，我就已警惕她。

一個國家有一個國家的磁場。

如果這國家的磁場和我們的磁場起了衝突，就會發生不愉快的事情，比如生病、吵架、被打搶、行李遺失、飛機延誤、嚴重迷路、意外等。

花錢活受罪，何苦呢？

我當時沒有阻止客人去，因為我已算過不會太嚴重。如果是會危害生命或安危的話，就算冒犯了客人，我也會大力阻止。

師父就曾警告過一對夫婦，千萬不要與某對夫婦和孩子一起出國，因為會發生嚴重的交通意外。結果，在師父的施壓下，他們「爽約」，取消了機票和住宿。

當時我還想，哇，師父，有必要這樣嗎？一般的人喜歡玩樂，把和家人朋友出國旅遊看得比天還大。

而且眾生偏向小氣，不輕易覺得自己錯，又容易忘恩負義，無論你是否曾幫過他們，只要您讓他們「不爽」，就算您是對的，他們也會杯葛您，在後面唱衰您。

您這麼堅持，讓人家對您反感，也不見得能度到人啊⋯⋯

師父說，人命關天，眾生愚昧，不這麼做，出事的時候，誰來負責？

結果。

那對夫婦沒有去，本也勸他們的朋友不要去。朋友說沒有去，結果偷偷去了，也真發生了意外⋯⋯

師父說如果他們有去，他們的磁場會加劇這場意外的嚴重性。

（坦白說，會騙你騙到這樣的朋友，本來還想投資做生意的，還是保持一個距離較聰明。）

這事件讓我印象非常深刻。不只是因為師父教我的玄學是那麼的準，而是師父處理這整件事上的智勇。

那種寧願被人討厭和講壞話也要做對事的態度，我服了。👏👏👏

討好客人還是向客人說真話，不是你想像中的那麼簡單。

有的人很敏感，尤其是覺得自己命不如人的人。有的人很脆弱，也有的人有大頭症。有的人自己做錯了，卻覺得不嚴重，所以你越講他，他的反彈就越大，覺得你對他有偏見，你不講他，他的頭永遠塞在雲霧中 - 做他的白日夢。

當然，這也意味著他們永遠只能當命運的傀儡，無法走出更好的一條路來。

感謝這位客人提供的見證，讓更多不了解八字命理的人獲益。

當你能夠把你這八字的知識和佛法修行一起並用時，有一天，你會發現你逐漸從命運的軌道中脫軌，「命中注定」再也不能用在你身上了。

如果想知道你自己是否適合批八字， 可觀看我這影片：https://youtu.be/ShkabnUByrY

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Every person has his/her own personalised energy field.

This energy field is made up of various components - our birth Bazi, the Feng Shui of our residence, our thinking, our family background and the later components like education, experience, religion, culture and social circle etc.

A Bazi analysis helps us to understand this complicated hybrid of Metal, Wood, Water, Fire and Earth. With this understanding, we can use the knowledge to maximise our times of prosperity and minimise our periods of bad luck.

My Bazi analysis consultations are always done in person, face-to-face. Because seeing the client in person, my analysis can be more in depth with the face reading (photos aren't reliable nowadays) and the energy field.

Different chemistry reactions arise when the energy field of a person interacts with those of various people, incidents and things. The elemental reactants of Metal, Wood, Water, Fire and Earth present in these energy fields will produce a wide variety of good and bad luck, prosperity auras and misfortune auras.

To comprehend our Bazi is to maintain a certain degree of autonomy over our lives. The foresight and prior awareness save us from being dragged along through Life by Destiny. We would have lost if we only realised things later.

In this long process of bettering our lives, one big taboo is falling sick.

Falling sick means we have to lose some money, we will screw up in important work and affects the agility of our brains.

There's a saying: small sickness is a blessing, while major illness is trouble.

However, no matter how minor the ailment may be, if a person keeps falling sick, it means his/her body is not strong enough. A weak constitution is unable to intercept high ranks in career, wealth and disasters. Poor health also affects your ability to take care of your family.

If the person who always fall sick is a young child, his/her parents will have to handle many financial and mental troubles

During our Bazi analysis consultation, when this client told me she would be holidaying in Tokyo with her family, I had already warned her to be careful.

A country also has its own energy field.

If the country's energy field conflicts with ours, there will be unhappy incidents e.g. falling sick, quarrels, robbery, missing luggage, flight delays, getting seriously lost or accidents.

Why spend our hard-earned money to suffer this way?

I did not stop the client from going ahead with her travels, because my calculations show that it would not be too serious. However, if it's a matter of life & death or personal safety, I would go all out to stop her, even if it means offending her.

Once, Shifu cautioned a married couple not to travel with another married couple and their children, for he predicted that there would be a severe car accident. Under pressure from Shifu, the couple "stood their friends up" and cancelled their tickets and accommodation.

At that time, I thought, wow, Shifu, was it necessary to do that? Most people live to play, and view holidaying with their family and friends more important than Heavens.

And sentient beings are prone to pettiness. They do not admit their wrongs easily and forget your kindness to them readily. No matter how much you have helped them, once you tread on their toes, even if you are right, they would be quick to boycott and bad-mouth you.

When such persistence of yours turns other people off, wouldn't it be contradictory to your efforts of delivering the?

Shifu simply answered me that, human lives are at stake, and sentient beings do not have the foresight to see beyond their life pleasures. If he did not do that, who would be responsible for this when an accident happened?

In the end.

That couple did not go for the trip. They also advised their friends to cancel the holiday plans. The friends said they would not be going too, but they secretly went ahead and an accident indeed happened...

Shifu said if the couple was present, their energy fields would aggravate the severity of the road accident.

(Honestly speaking, it is wiser to keep a distance from such friends who would go to this extent to lie to you. To think the couple had wanted to go into business with these friends.)

This incident left a deep impression on me. Not because Shifu taught me Chinese Metaphysics that can be so precisely accurate, but the courage and wisdom Shifu demonstrated in handling this.

I salute his attitude of persisting to do the right thing, despite getting hated or bad mouthed by others. 👏👏👏

It is never an easy task treading the fine line between pleasing the client and being frank.

Some clients are more sensitive, especially those who felt they are dealt a bad card in life. Some clients are more vulnerable, and some are plain haughty. There are also those who do not think much of their wrongdoings. So the more we correct them, the greater their reactions are, and then they deduce that you hold a bias against them. Yet, if you are not forthright with them, their heads will remain stuck in the misty clouds - daydreaming away.

Of course, this also means they will have to remain as puppets of Destiny, and are unable to walk a better path away from their pre-destined Bazi.

Thank you to this client for this testimonial, for it allows more people to have a deeper understanding of the workings of Bazi analysis.

When you can combine this knowledge of your Bazi with Dharma practices, one day, you will discover that Destiny no longer has its clutches on you.

If you wish to know whether you are suitable for a Bazi analysis, please watch my video here:
👉 https://youtu.be/ShkabnUByrY