This rascal has always been a tougher nut to crack compared to Kylie. The circuit breaker period had me almost going mad with #Meganjoseph testing my patience all day everyday. So after much screaming, shouting and spankings that didn’t see a change in her behaviour, i decided to try something i used to do when Ky was 4 - a rewards chart to encourage good behaviour.
It’s been 3 weeks since we started on this and i’m soooo glad to report that it’s been pretty effective so far! Started out by giving out the stickers frequently so she could get the first taste of her “hard-earned” reward, then when it came to the second reward, i cut back on how often she would receive the stickers and also implemented removing stickers if she behaved badly. She’s certainly a lot more responsive and willing to listen and clean up her mess, get herself showered etc. and i find myself screaming a lot less these days!
Parents out there, do share with me what are some of your disciplining/parenting methods and how it’s worked for you! Would love to gain some valuable tips!
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[教育時評] 教養方式 Parenting Styles
在近代的家庭教養理論中,影響最大的要數鮑姆林德(Diana Blumberg Baumrind)的父母教養方式理論。鮑姆林德是美國加州大學伯克利分校的發展心理學教授同時也是兩項美國公共衛生局項目的主管和加利福尼亞州州項目的顧問。
她在在教養方式研究中發現不同的父母教養方式主要的差別在於愛和規範的維度上。根據愛和規矩這兩個維度上的強弱結合,可以勾畫出四種教養方式: 開明權威型(authoritative),威權專制型(authoritarian),放任型(permissive)和忽視冷漠型(uninvolved)。
在此分享其中一種教養方式:
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Authoritarian Parenting 威權專制型
The parent is demanding but not responsive. Authoritarian parenting has distinctive effects on children:
父母提出絕對化要求但不做出響應。專制教養方式對孩子會造成以下幾種獨特的效果:
1. Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, "Because I said so," when a child questions the reasons behind a rule. They are not interested in negotiating and their focus is on obedience.
當孩子質疑規則背後的原因時,威權專制型父母以「你懂什麼,我說了算」的回應公式而聞名。他們對談判不感興趣,他們的重點是服從。
2. They also don't allow kids to get involved in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard for a child's opinion.
他們也不允許孩子參與解決問題的挑戰或障礙。取而代之的是,他們制定規則並將結果強加於孩子身上,卻很少考慮他們的意見。
3. Authoritarian parents may use punishments instead of discipline. So rather than teach a child how to make better choices, they're invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes.
威權專制型父母可能以懲罰而不是紀律約束為手段。因此,與其說教孩子如何做出更好的選擇,不如說他們是在讓孩子為自己的錯誤感到抱歉。
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4. Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, their obedience comes at a price.
與嚴格的威權專制型父母一起長大的孩子往往在很多時候都遵循規則。但是,他們的服從是有代價的。
5. Children raised by authoritarian parents tend to be conformist, highly obedient, quiet, and not very happy. These children often suffer from depression and self-blame.
由專制型父母養育的孩子傾向於變得墨守成規、唯命是從、安安靜且鬱鬱寡歡。這種孩子通常會生活在抑鬱和自責的陰影下。
6. Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of developing self-esteem problems because their opinions aren't valued.
威權專制型父母的孩子由於沒有重視自己的觀點而更有可能出現自尊上的問題。
7. They may also become hostile or aggressive. Rather than think about how to do things better in the future, they often focus on the anger they feel toward their parents. Since authoritarian parents are often strict, their children may grow to become good liars in an effort to avoid punishment.
他們也可能變得敵對或好鬥。比起考慮將來如何把事情做得更好,他們更常著眼於對父母的憤怒。由於威權專制型父母往往嚴格,為了避免受到懲罰,他們的孩子可能成長為善於說謊的人。
文章資料來自於維基百科和Verywell Family保健網站。
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Parents don’t fit into just one category and every family is different. There are times when parents tend to be permissive and times when parents are more authoritative. What parents need to be aware of is that there needs to be a balance in everything they do. When they lean completely towards one side, negative consequences are bound to occur.
父母不僅隸屬於一類,每個家庭也都不一樣。在某些時候或方面,父母傾向於寬容,而在另外的時候,父母更具權威性。父母需要意識到的是,他們所做的一切都要保持平衡。當當他們完全傾斜到一端時,必然會發生負面後果。
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參考資料
Bi X, Yang Y, Li H, Wang M, Zhang W, Deater-deckard K. Parenting Styles and Parent-Adolescent Relationships: The Mediating Roles of Behavioral Autonomy and Parental Authority. Front Psychol. 2018;9:2187. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.02187
Santrock, J.W. (2007). A topical approach to life-span development, third Ed. New York: McGraw-Hill.
Stassen Berger, Kathleen (2011). The Developing Person Through the Lifespan. Worth Publishers. p. 274.
"The Role of Parents in the Development of Peer Group Competence. ERIC Digest". Eric Digests. 1992. Archived from the original on 2007-11-29. Retrieved 2007-09-23.
Image: Psychologyinaction.org
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[教育時評] 教養方式 Parenting Styles
在近代的家庭教養理論中,影響最大的要數鮑姆林德(Diana Blumberg Baumrind)的父母教養方式理論。鮑姆林德是美國加州大學伯克利分校的發展心理學教授同時也是兩項美國公共衛生局項目的主管和加利福尼亞州州項目的顧問。
她在在教養方式研究中發現不同的父母教養方式主要的差別在於愛和規範的維度上。根據愛和規矩這兩個維度上的強弱結合,可以勾畫出四種教養方式: 開明權威型(authoritative),威權專制型(authoritarian),放任型(permissive)和忽視冷漠型(uninvolved)。
在此分享其中一種教養方式:
★★★★★★★★★★★★
Authoritarian Parenting 威權專制型
The parent is demanding but not responsive. Authoritarian parenting has distinctive effects on children:
父母提出絕對化要求但不做出響應。專制教養方式對孩子會造成以下幾種獨特的效果:
1. Authoritarian parents are famous for saying, "Because I said so," when a child questions the reasons behind a rule. They are not interested in negotiating and their focus is on obedience.
當孩子質疑規則背後的原因時,威權專制型父母以「你懂什麼,我說了算」的回應公式而聞名。他們對談判不感興趣,他們的重點是服從。
2. They also don't allow kids to get involved in problem-solving challenges or obstacles. Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences with little regard for a child's opinion.
他們也不允許孩子參與解決問題的挑戰或障礙。取而代之的是,他們制定規則並將結果強加於孩子身上,卻很少考慮他們的意見。
3. Authoritarian parents may use punishments instead of discipline. So rather than teach a child how to make better choices, they're invested in making kids feel sorry for their mistakes.
威權專制型父母可能以懲罰而不是紀律約束為手段。因此,與其說教孩子如何做出更好的選擇,不如說他們是在讓孩子為自己的錯誤感到抱歉。
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4. Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, their obedience comes at a price.
與嚴格的威權專制型父母一起長大的孩子往往在很多時候都遵循規則。但是,他們的服從是有代價的。
5. Children raised by authoritarian parents tend to be conformist, highly obedient, quiet, and not very happy. These children often suffer from depression and self-blame.
由專制型父母養育的孩子傾向於變得墨守成規、唯命是從、安安靜且鬱鬱寡歡。這種孩子通常會生活在抑鬱和自責的陰影下。
6. Children of authoritarian parents are at a higher risk of developing self-esteem problems because their opinions aren't valued.
威權專制型父母的孩子由於沒有重視自己的觀點而更有可能出現自尊上的問題。
7. They may also become hostile or aggressive. Rather than think about how to do things better in the future, they often focus on the anger they feel toward their parents. Since authoritarian parents are often strict, their children may grow to become good liars in an effort to avoid punishment.
他們也可能變得敵對或好鬥。比起考慮將來如何把事情做得更好,他們更常著眼於對父母的憤怒。由於威權專制型父母往往嚴格,為了避免受到懲罰,他們的孩子可能成長為善於說謊的人。
文章資料來自於維基百科和Verywell Family保健網站。
★★★★★★★★★★★★
Parents don’t fit into just one category and every family is different. There are times when parents tend to be permissive and times when parents are more authoritative. What parents need to be aware of is that there needs to be a balance in everything they do. When they lean completely towards one side, negative consequences are bound to occur.
父母不僅隸屬於一類,每個家庭也都不一樣。在某些時候或方面,父母傾向於寬容,而在另外的時候,父母更具權威性。父母需要意識到的是,他們所做的一切都要保持平衡。當當他們完全傾斜到一端時,必然會發生負面後果。
★★★★★★★★★★★★
參考資料
Bi X, Yang Y, Li H, Wang M, Zhang W, Deater-deckard K. Parenting Styles and Parent-Adolescent Relationships: The Mediating Roles of Behavioral Autonomy and Parental Authority. Front Psychol. 2018;9:2187. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2018.02187
Santrock, J.W. (2007). A topical approach to life-span development, third Ed. New York: McGraw-Hill.
Stassen Berger, Kathleen (2011). The Developing Person Through the Lifespan. Worth Publishers. p. 274.
"The Role of Parents in the Development of Peer Group Competence. ERIC Digest". Eric Digests. 1992. Archived from the original on 2007-11-29. Retrieved 2007-09-23.
Image: Psychologyinaction.org
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Good, positive energy - that’s all it takes to brighten up our day, or even to inspire us to live better.
We all like receiving positivity energy, but to be able to receive anything, someone has to be giving it. And because we’re very responsive creatures, it’s easy to reflect it back when someone is giving positive energy.
When someone’s bright and friendly, we’re warmer and more open towards them. When we go to a restaurant, it’s easy to be cheerful and friendly to a waiter who's cheerful and friendly.
We use other people’s positivity as a conductor for our own positivity, but to be able to be the conductor of positive energy is a much better position to be in, because it means that instead of depending on other people’s energy to lift us up, we lift ourselves up.
Being the first to always give warmth and positivity may not seem like such a winning proposition, especially to complete strangers, but the reward is two-fold. Not only can we create our own happiness, the chances of us having great interactions with people are a lot higher, because human beings cannot help but respond to positive energy.
All of us are capable of giving positive energy, but sometimes we reserve all that positivity only for people we know, for our friends and our family. For other people, we’re more cautious with our energy. We’ll only be our nice, amazing self once we’ve determined that the person is deserving of it.
And that is an extremely wasteful way to live, because it’s hiding away the best part of ourselves to only reveal it once in a while. Then we’re only truly happy once in a while.
The energy we carry determines our state of happiness. If we only respond to positive energy, our happiness will be very dependent upon circumstances . If we always give positive energy… it’s one of the best ways to BE HAPPY, ALWAYS.
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當BB還在母體內的時候,一切營養來源都來自媽媽。憑的,是一條臍帶的連繫。初生嬰兒則全靠母乳生存。然而,根據世界衛生組織的建議,嬰兒到了六個月大左右,便要開始從固體食物吸收更多營養,以配合發育需要。這同時亦意味著,孩子正逐步走向獨立。
從剪斷臍帶、離開媽媽的身體,到告別母親的乳房,開始「離乳加固」,其實都是自然不過的成長階段,但這階段有什麼需要注意呢?
*有讀者反映片中提到嬰兒的第一口益生菌,有機會是於生產過程從母體吸入*
參考資料
Rapley, G. (2008). Guidelines for implementing a baby-led approach to the introduction of solid foods, Baby-led Weaning: The fuss-free way to introduce solid foods.
Rapley, G. and Murkett, T. (2010) Baby-Led Weaning: The Essential Guide to Introducing Solid Foods and Helping Your Baby to Grow Up a Happy and Confident Eater. Experiment, UK.
Townsend, E. and Pitchfor, N. (2011) Baby knows best! The impact of weaning style on food preferences and body mass index in early childhood in a case-controlled sample, BMJ Open.
黃瑽寧(2013)「如何幫寶寶添加副食品」,«親子天下»。
Nieuwboer, M. V., Brummer, R., Guarner, F., Morelli, L., Cabana, M., & Claassen, E. (2015). Safety of probiotics and synbiotics in children under 18 years of age. Beneficial Microbes, 6(5), 615-630.
Mohan, R., Koebnick, C., Schildt, J., Schmidt, S., Mueller, M., Possner, M., . . . Blaut, M. (2006).
Effects of Bifidobacterium lactis Bb12 Supplementation on Intestinal Microbiota of Preterm Infants: A Double-Blind, Placebo-Controlled, Randomized Study. Journal of Clinical Microbiology, 44(11), 4025-4031.
Wells, K. W. (2018, July 13). Guide to Healthy Baby Food. Retrieved from Wellness Mama
Cameron, S. L., Heath, A. M., & Taylor, R. W. (n.d.). How Feasible Is Baby-Led Weaning as an Approach to Infant Feeding? A Review of the Evidence.
Black, M., & Aboud, F. (2011). Responsive Feeding Is Embedded in a Theoretical Framework of Responsive Parenting1-3. The Journal of Nutrition, 141(3), 490-4.
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